“We often hear about people with a victim mentality. This state of mind is characterized by a sense of helplessness. They feel powerless to change their situations. They engage frequently in the blame game. Since they are powerless and have no control they couldn’t possibly be responsible for anything that happens to them. No, it must be someone else’s fault.
They actively search for reasons why they are in the state they are in. It’s because of their race, gender, their economic status, or the government. It could be because of their faith, their appearance, or any number of other things; they blame everyone and everything else for their lack of progress.
By its very nature, victimhood is the antithesis of victory. The victim is the conquered so it shouldn’t be surprising that they don’t share many traits with the victors.
In the mind of the victor, blame is replaced by ownership and responsibility. Instead of spending their energy looking for who or what to blame, or finding reasons why they haven’t moved forward, the victor takes responsibility for her situation and spends her energy looking for how to change a situation. They don’t look for excuses; they look for ways to take action.”
- Karyn B.